"Come, come, whoever you are.
Wonderer, worshipper, lover of leaving.
It doesn't matter.
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a thousand times
Come, yet again, come, come."
Jalāl ad-Dīn Muḥammad RūmīI was mentioning to a student this morning the strange phenomenon of disappearing students. Because Yoga is a long-term process and needs a long-term commitment, I only work with people who will commit to that long term. And the only way of doing this is financially, so all my students pay in blocks (10 weeks for a group class, one year for one-to-one students).
Sure, I am probably lowering my income as a result, but the sense of community in my group classes is far greater than any other yoga class I have been to. However I had been discussing with her the strange occurrences with one-to-one students who pay for their sessions but never come back after the first consultation session. At one time this may have worried me that it was something I did, however I have over the years bumped into a few of these people and it is usually life's rollercoaster that has pulled htem away for one reason or another.
Still, I wonder whether some of them at least have found tYoga process too demanding, have not practiced frequently "enough" and don't want to come back to me again because they are guilty at not practicing. Then time goes on, their not-practicing continues and they belive it's really too late to start over. This, of course, is poppycock.
I read a book by Paul McKenna the other day, and what he said really struck home - that for most situations the only route to failure is to give up. That is, if you could have another chance at success, so long as you keep trying you may well turn your actions into complete success. Aparently on studying succesful (i.e. million/billionaires) it was found that these people factor in a certain element of failure into their plans.
So the people who "fail" in business are just the ones who gave up at their first bankruptcy. Those who "succeed" are the ones who kept on the struggle through one or more bankruptcies and ended up triumphing over adversity. So we must also learn to factor in "failure" to our Yoga practice - I use the quotes because it's not really failure, it is just a life lesson in the form of what some judgemental people may label as such.
Another friend once told me about the known entity in alcohol and drug rehabilitation called "Necessary Relapse". This is when someone falls off the wagon and goes back to drink/drugs for a short while. All they need is another glimpse of how horrible their life is under their drug of choice, an object lesson that allows them to reaffirm their commitment to sobriety, and they jump back on the wagon with renewed vigour.
So I hope that if any of my students left behind their Yoga practice because they feel they "failed", they appreciate that my door is ALWAYS open to them - like the prodigal son, you will always be welcomed back.
Even if you have broken your vow a thousand times ;-)